at long last--

[alwaysbeenasmiler]

I feel personally vindicated.

Around 8 years ago, I left a relationship. Well it was a breakup but it was one that was needed, during this relationship I had been gas-lit by my significant other's husband. In that he was constantly trying to convince me that I was crazy, that my feelings were not valid-- and my significant other actually sided with him on several accounts and occasions. I was not happy to be honest and there was just something about this man that just utterly made me not like him, his attitude and such. Sure, I tried to get along with him for Shu's sake but when it came down to it, I just couldn't.

When I voiced that I didn't like him, that I thought he was a shitty person-- she surface agreed with me but she also agreed with him. Now granted, I am sure that it was because she didn't want any reprisals-- that's fair, after all they had kids together. but like, I just couldn't stomach him.

Well recently found out that he got busted for inappropriately touching young girls. A heinous act to be sure, but it was hard not to just yell a resounding "I KNEW IT!" like, he was always trying to control every detail of our lives, he said such winning things as 'I don't consider you a woman but a man because you like women' and other really just 'horrible' things. I don't like being right by any stretch of the imagination, and my heart goes out to his victims but I guess it just goes to show that he is the smarmy piece of shit that I thought he was and that all of the 'you're just jealous' accusations that hurled toward the end. It was actually his ex-girlfriend that shared it with me and she had some pretty horrific things to say about it to be honest. But well, there you go.

8 years ago, my breakup with Shu was like the end of the world.

Today, I feel like I'm definitely thriving. Yup, I'm 40-- but I have a husband I love and a job that entertains me, and look at me RPing and shit after a near 7 year hiatus.

Comments

[breyzyyin]

My heart goes out to the victims as well because it is genuinely horrible that they had to endure something like that. I hope that they can start healing.

~I'm grateful that today you're thriving and feeling so much happiness now. ♥

[abyss_valkyrie]

*hugs you*
Things that don't go your way always seem like the worst things ever,like the world ended or 'oh god,how am I going to face what's next?' We don't often realise that it may just be the right thing to happen because the results come much later.Either we end up growing as people or thankfully the toxic people are no more in our lives.So glad to hear that you got out unscathed all those years ago.

[alwaysbeenasmiler]

The feeling of dodging a bullet is really nice, that's for sure! Thanks for the support!

[flightstone]

I'm sure it was hard, but I'm glad you managed to get out of that situation. He sounds like a really toxic person with no respect for others.

You're such a fun person to talk to, and you definitely deserved way better than that. So it's good to hear you found someone you love and are making the most of life.

I hope you're having a good day!

[lessonsinescapology]

Ah... I'm glad you got out of that situation, being gaslit is not a thing to tolerate.

You're in a better place now!

[carisma_sensei]

That sucks. Sometimes shit like this happens and we can only say "I knew it", that's all we got. Sadly. *hugs*

[alwaysbeenasmiler]

Not even gonna lie.. I feel like the 100 percent validation that I was not crazy was the best thing ever. Really don't need anything else. *hugs*

[everlongmoon]

You go, boo. I've been in a similar predicament. I'm trans and yeah, cismen can be cruel but they're not all like that. I promise. Good to meet you, I found you on iam. Decided to comment.

Tell me about your husband. He must be a good man. I'm glad you're happy.

[jealouscupid]

damn ... sorry to be resurfacing an old entry! i'm just catching up: but damn. i'm glad that he was caught and that he might face repercussions. but i'm more glad that you're in a much better place, and seem to be healed from a lot of what went on!