at long last--
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alwaysbeenasmilerI feel personally vindicated.
Around 8 years ago, I left a relationship. Well it was a breakup but it was one that was needed, during this relationship I had been gas-lit by my significant other's husband. In that he was constantly trying to convince me that I was crazy, that my feelings were not valid-- and my significant other actually sided with him on several accounts and occasions. I was not happy to be honest and there was just something about this man that just utterly made me not like him, his attitude and such. Sure, I tried to get along with him for Shu's sake but when it came down to it, I just couldn't.
When I voiced that I didn't like him, that I thought he was a shitty person-- she surface agreed with me but she also agreed with him. Now granted, I am sure that it was because she didn't want any reprisals-- that's fair, after all they had kids together. but like, I just couldn't stomach him.
Well recently found out that he got busted for inappropriately touching young girls. A heinous act to be sure, but it was hard not to just yell a resounding "I KNEW IT!" like, he was always trying to control every detail of our lives, he said such winning things as 'I don't consider you a woman but a man because you like women' and other really just 'horrible' things. I don't like being right by any stretch of the imagination, and my heart goes out to his victims but I guess it just goes to show that he is the smarmy piece of shit that I thought he was and that all of the 'you're just jealous' accusations that hurled toward the end. It was actually his ex-girlfriend that shared it with me and she had some pretty horrific things to say about it to be honest. But well, there you go.
8 years ago, my breakup with Shu was like the end of the world.
Today, I feel like I'm definitely thriving. Yup, I'm 40-- but I have a husband I love and a job that entertains me, and look at me RPing and shit after a near 7 year hiatus.
Around 8 years ago, I left a relationship. Well it was a breakup but it was one that was needed, during this relationship I had been gas-lit by my significant other's husband. In that he was constantly trying to convince me that I was crazy, that my feelings were not valid-- and my significant other actually sided with him on several accounts and occasions. I was not happy to be honest and there was just something about this man that just utterly made me not like him, his attitude and such. Sure, I tried to get along with him for Shu's sake but when it came down to it, I just couldn't.
When I voiced that I didn't like him, that I thought he was a shitty person-- she surface agreed with me but she also agreed with him. Now granted, I am sure that it was because she didn't want any reprisals-- that's fair, after all they had kids together. but like, I just couldn't stomach him.
Well recently found out that he got busted for inappropriately touching young girls. A heinous act to be sure, but it was hard not to just yell a resounding "I KNEW IT!" like, he was always trying to control every detail of our lives, he said such winning things as 'I don't consider you a woman but a man because you like women' and other really just 'horrible' things. I don't like being right by any stretch of the imagination, and my heart goes out to his victims but I guess it just goes to show that he is the smarmy piece of shit that I thought he was and that all of the 'you're just jealous' accusations that hurled toward the end. It was actually his ex-girlfriend that shared it with me and she had some pretty horrific things to say about it to be honest. But well, there you go.
8 years ago, my breakup with Shu was like the end of the world.
Today, I feel like I'm definitely thriving. Yup, I'm 40-- but I have a husband I love and a job that entertains me, and look at me RPing and shit after a near 7 year hiatus.