alwaysbeenasmiler: (Sakura☆Sitting with the mortals and)
[personal profile] alwaysbeenasmiler
Heya everyone! As we near the end of May, I am going to open up the floor for an ASK ME ANYTHING.

Anything you are remotely curious about-- involving fandom, RL, favorite characters, songs, pairings, hobbies-- my life is an open book. I will answer it to the best of my knowledge-- And hey! Do the same in your journal, so myself and your friends can ask you questions! Let's get to know each other-- everyone!

Date: 2017-05-30 08:57 am (UTC)
singloom: (Happy Faces Zack)
From: [personal profile] singloom
Are there any YouTube channels or videos you watch to cheer you up? Sometimes, I watch video game related ones like Game Grumps and Markiplier to cheer me up when I'm having a down day. There's just something about watching someone freak out, rage and the like over a video game, especially one I've played.

Date: 2017-05-31 02:50 pm (UTC)
singloom: (Default)
From: [personal profile] singloom
Disneyland. I remember going there as a little me and enjoying it so much. It's really the stuff of dreams. On the subject of food, I tried strawberry popcorn at Tokyo Disneyland and it was surprisingly very nommy. <3

Date: 2017-05-30 09:06 am (UTC)
bonnefois: ghost_factory @ LJ (Default)
From: [personal profile] bonnefois
Actually, I've been thinking about messaging you about this, because we've known each other for so long and had a somewhat similar thing happen recently and I've been kind of having a hard time finding a way through it.

It's kind of personal, so if you'd prefer to take it to messages, it'd be fine.

You IDed as lesbian for quite a while and now ID as bi. After years of feeling like no label was good enough for me, but defaulting to lesbian even if it maybe didn't quite fit perfectly, I finally switched to queer (multisexual kind) because I was tired of not fitting any other box.

So, anyways, how has that change made you feel? Both the negative and the positive. I'm just interested in other people who switched identities.

Date: 2017-05-30 03:03 pm (UTC)
facetiousfutz: (gw 1x2 my favorite love)
From: [personal profile] facetiousfutz
That was awesome of you to share, and I'd like to weigh in if I may. Although I stand firmly in the "please don't label me" camp when it comes to gender and sexuality, I tend to flutter between bi and ace, I think, and I'm willing to bet my medication/mental illness has a strong hand in it, because right now I'm so sexually dead inside, but I have been fiercely attracted to both men and women in my life, moreso when I was a teenager than anything.

I do feel guilt at times, because on the surface I appear to be straight, but I get so anxious discussing sexuality IRL that I avoid it outright. If someone tells me that I'm straight, or that I'm a lesbian, I find that those are the only two labels I can refute as bad fits for me, but I won't argue with bi, pan, demi, or ace. As for gender, I'm fine with female or neutral pronouns. I feel like I'm the type of person that can attract both sexes equally, but I'm marrying a guy, not because he's a guy, but because he's a friend I've connected with very deeply.

Also, there are times I feel like I can't define my sexuality clearly because I've never had a relationship with another female beyond friendship. I've never even kissed one. I've been attracted to them, but I never went for it. I don't regret it, though, because I'm very prickly about dating and meeting new people (VERY introverted IRL), so that had a big hand in it.

my dad who's been on the record saying that I am straight again-- nope; he doesn't get to say that.

I think I can understand that. When I was in high school, my mom pushed me a bit to come out as a lesbian under "it's all right if you are, I support you", which I was not and never was, though in a way I still appreciate the sentiment and know I'd be lucky for it if I was a lesbian. She thought this because I was part of the GSA and felt very passionately about LGBT+ issues, and I still do today. Still, she's a Baby Boomer. It's impressive she even acknowledges that gay and lesbian is a thing. She vaguely acknowledges that trans is a thing, but I think she mixes it up with gay/lesbian still. I don't think she knows that bi is a thing, though, and sometimes I wonder what she makes of the fact that I've been with my SO for six years and not once have I gotten pregnant, or even risked becoming pregnant (ace leaning + vaginismus = so much no right now.)

Date: 2017-05-31 11:52 am (UTC)
bonnefois: ghost_factory @ LJ (Default)
From: [personal profile] bonnefois
Hey, thanks for sharing your story. I hadn't heard as much as the (rather gross!) side of men being creepy like that, (though it makes sense considering bi women have a 65% abuse ratio and the whole gross fetishizing f/f relationships and etc) but I'd heard a lot of "all my lesbian friends basically disowned me as a traitor and now I can't go anywhere in the LGBT+ community without feeling like a pariah" stories.

Considering that I've dated nothing but bi girls since changing orientations (not by design, just that's who was interested in me) and my friends are mostly bi, plus I'm not really out to anyone I know who was straight, I didn't have much change in that regard.

Probably the biggest change for me (and hardest aspect) was when I changed, I began to realize some of the uglier sides of the LGBT+ community that I hadn't seen before. That's what I'm personally dealing with most of all, and the biggest mourning point for me. I've actually had to pull out of some parts of fandom and LGBT+ areas because they're filled with a rather hostile sub group of lesbian or gay people who hate other parts of the LGBT+ very vocally, and it was really harming my mental health.

It's kind of hard to talk about because that same vocal sub group will call any kind of criticism homophobia. I've even had to see the jar-droppingly awful thing of a gay black man calling out racism in the LGBT+ community, only to be accused of homophobia and many white gay men wishing homophobic violence on him, and seen it with white lesbians talking about things like racism/biphobia/transphobia in the LGBT+ community and getting tons of bully and "you just hate lesbians!" in response, to an open lesbian.

I feel really "get off my side!" a lot of the time these days.

Date: 2017-06-15 12:22 am (UTC)
bonnefois: ghost_factory @ LJ (Default)
From: [personal profile] bonnefois
Well, I'm trying and I'm still kind of bitter. Right now I'm just kind of hanging on my own and avoiding most LGBT spaces and just focusing on myself. One day I won't be angry about everything that happened, but it's going to take a lot of time to get there. So I'm just healing.

My current gf is so anti-social I doubt things like being treated poorly at pride would be a problem considering she never wants to go out and be near people, lol.

I'm glad you found someone who you really click with! He sounds very nice. We've been livejournal/DW friends long enough that I remember some more trying times for you, so it's good to see happier times.

Date: 2017-05-30 05:36 pm (UTC)
rocket_to_neptune: (Default)
From: [personal profile] rocket_to_neptune
What ARE your favorite hobbies? :)

What's your favorite childhood memory?

Do you still have any childhood mementos?

Date: 2017-06-06 09:23 pm (UTC)
rocket_to_neptune: (renaissance)
From: [personal profile] rocket_to_neptune
This is such a lovely story. <3 I'm so glad you were able to get something from your grandmother, even something small, and it seems extra special now.

Date: 2017-05-30 07:33 pm (UTC)
breyzyyin: (Yin: not afraid of emotions)
From: [personal profile] breyzyyin
Are there any book, anime, or video game series that you're surprised you ended up really getting into? What made you change your mind about them?

Date: 2017-06-01 12:30 am (UTC)
star_healer: (Default)
From: [personal profile] star_healer
I am not sure what to ask! But I'd like to know more about anything that's important to you. :) What are some of your favorite things, or subjects you're most passionate about?

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